How Do I Choose?: A Guide for the Bride Who Loves Everything
“I just love them all! How am I supposed to choose?”
You wouldn’t believe how often this exact phrase is uttered in our shop. It’s common to see a bride stood before her three favorites, one hand on her hip and the other beneath her chin and she and her bride tribe-- supportive friends and family that they are-- scrutinize every last detail of the dresses that topped her list and took her breath away.
When it comes to a question like this, the truth of the matter is that there isn’t a single right answer. But fear not! Just because the path to your perfect wedding isn’t simple doesn’t mean it won’t be amazing. If you’re stuck choosing between two details, whether it be your wedding gown or your theme (or anything in between), we’ve got just the guide for you.
Take a Picture
As someone who has personally sifted through thousands of wedding photos, I can tell you in full confidence that what waits for you on the other side of that lens is sometimes different from what you expect. While you may love the way a certain fabric or color looks in person, it could be that you totally end up hating the way it photographs. If you can’t choose between gowns, your consultant snap a couple of shots-- capturing both your favorite details and the look from afar-- and compare from there.
Don’t Overthink It
Many similar blogs will offer you the tried-and-true advice to sleep on it. There’s a time and place for beauty rest, but we find that more often than not, this recommendation leaves brides tossing and turning all night. We’re not saying you need to make any decisions while your florist or your planner is standing over your shoulder, but don’t allow yourself the time to overanalyze. Go with your gut. You may just surprise yourself with how wonderful things turn out!
Keep Your Party Small
No, no-- we don’t mean your wedding party. But when it comes time to make the pressing decisions, whether it be on your dress, your venue, catering, or anything in between, the fewer people involved, the smoother the process generally is. We totally understand wanting everyone to be a part of celebrating this big moment in your life, but that’s what the wedding is for. The planning should be all about you! You run the risk of overwhelming yourself with too many outside opinions otherwise.
Let’s preface this by saying this particular piece of advice is not a sales pitch, but rather, an honest tip from our experienced bridal stylists. Amanda, our amazing resident I&B bridal consultant and recent bride herself, says that if you even think you’ve found the one-- be it the dress, the venue, or any other element of your wedding, stop there and GO FOR IT! We mean it. Book it, buy it, BAM! Right there. That moment should be magical and while we promise it will still be special if you have to step away from it, there’s something to be said about knowing you’re walking away from somewhere one step closer to the wedding of your dreams.
Nothing is Permanent
Lastly, we want to assure you that there is no damage that can’t be undone. If you really feel that you pulled the plug on something prematurely, remember that there’s always someone in your corner willing to help you think of a creative solution. Sure, it might take a little time, effort, and money, but at the end of the day, it’s all worth it for that glorious moment when you and your SO spot each other on either end of the aisle and everything falls into place.
Do you have any advice for brides who are struggling to make decisions? Are you stuck on something and looking for help? Leave us a comment down below or find us on Facebook and Instagram-- we’ll do our best to help!